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This podcast is for those who are interested in improving their intimate relationship. If you are in a relationship, and believe in keeping the spark alive, this podcast is for you. For those couples who are dating, engaged, newlyweds, married, or in a long term relationship, we will focus on enhancing your intimate connection. Dr. Kia James, will interview specialists, relationship coaches, marriage counselors, and successful couples to bring you tips, advice, and strategies for making your good relationship or marriage better. Of course, these tips can also benefit couples who are experiencing relationship stress. We will cover topics related to successful co-parenting, creating a healthy blended family, dating, sex, love, passion, supporting your partner, and much more. Nurture your relationship and avoid relationship road blocks. Tune in as we discuss relationship tips that will give your relationship that extra boost!
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Nov 22, 2016

The Traveling Spouse with Three Degrees member-Valerie Holiday

Relationship Boosters Podcast Episode 8

Target Audience: Couples in Long Distance Relationships or Frequently Traveling for work

Objective: To give information about what things are helpful when you are or have a traveling spouse?

About Valerie:

*My marriage is Bi-coastal and international. My husband resides in UK, England and I’m in USA, Atlanta.

*I’ve been married 3 times. I am a firm believer of the institution of marriage. I knew there was somebody out there who could deal with me and my lifestyle, and it wasn’t going to wreak havoc on the relationship, because they were going to be understanding.

*1st marriage lasted 7 yrs, I have son who is 33 from that marriage; 2nd marriage only lasted 2yrs there were too many differences.

Currently married 10 yrs but together 14-15yrs

Tips For Relationship and Marriage:

*When you become involved with someone on a permanent basis, you must accept them for who they are as they must accept you for who you are.

*Don’t go into marriage thinking that when you get married you’ll change them.

*You must work on the relationship. If you want it to last, you should invest time, effort energy, and patience. It’s not always 50/50. You might end up with the messy stick most of the time; It may be ok, since you don’t end up with it all the time. A relationship is give and take.

Recommendations to help when you’re apart:

*Make time for each other- Skype has been an absolute blessing

*Call each other to say good morning or good night.

What are things you should plan for when starting a Long Distance relationship:

*Finances are important

*Put money aside for travel

*Plan days off around each other’s schedule

How do you plan to depart from each other?:

*Leave Notes-

-Slip a love note in a bag

-Leave message on the mirror that can be seen when it fogs up

-Get a card

Behaviors or things to avoid:

*Avoid insecurity- If you travel frequently, a secure relationship is needed.

*Avoid Distrust- Develop trust in each other.

*Avoid Poor Communication- Make sure you talk and listen to each other.

*Don’t be lazy!-It takes time and effort to make it work.

Other Tips:

*Be patient

*Have conversation and make the effort to communicate

*Be honest

*Find a way to state a complaint or what’s bugging you

*Figure out each other’s moods

*Don’t go to bed angry

*It’s all about working together

*Support each other in whatever it is that you each want to do.

Benefits to being in a long distance relationship:

*Distance allows you to take a break and rethink what you’re arguing about and see it from the other’s point of view.

*We overdose on love when we are together, because we miss touching each other when we’re apart.

How do you deal with people who are attracted to you while working?

*Keep distance maintained with others.

*State that you’re in a relationship.

*Don’t give your spouse a reason to feel disrespected when they are around. Keep to the same pattern even when they’re not around.

What’s the main thing that has made your relationship a success?

*Communication and Patience

*Recognizing we’re two different personalities

*I’ve got his back and he has mine

Nov 15, 2016

Parenting Together as a Team

Relationship Boosters Podcast Episode 7


Successfully navigate the world of parenting together.

How to successfully co-parent with your partner

  • Conversations about parenting should begin when a couple is in the early, but serious stages, of their relationship.
  • Talk about what you and your spouse want parenting to look like.
    • What type of discipline style do you want to use?
    • What are the family values for you and your partner?
      • Will you have closed doors or open doors in the house?
    • Dig deep. You and your partner should speak about the kind of parents you had. Family origin issues are important.
      • Share your upbringing with each other.
        • Did you feel like the parenting style that your parents used worked?
        • What did you like and what didn’t you like about your upbringing? Why?
      • Strategies
        • Alone time
        • 1,2,3 magic
      • When parents have strong parenting disagreements that are not discussed, it may cause confusion for the child.
      • Be a unified front. It can be problematic if one parent is not supporting the other parent, or if the child recognizes that they are not on the same page. 
      • Establish a system that works for your family.
        • Create structure for the family. Make life more predictable.
        • What are the family needs?
        • What are the needs of the individuals in your family?
        • Come up with a schedule for the family.
          • Cozi App
        • Use strengths as a deciding factor for dividing responsibilities. Dividing responsibilities is not always split 50/50, and taking turns may not be realistic.
          • If you are good at homework, and your partner is good at cooking, then you may be doing the majority of the homework, and your partner may be doing the majority of the cooking.
        • Be playful and use humor.
        • There is no perfect parent. Just do the best that you possibly can! 

The best time to begin discussions about developing a parenting style is prior to having children, and this should be revisited over time.

Having discussions about parenting is extremely important. In many relationships, these discussions never occur.  The failure to address parental differences can ultimately lead to serious problems in your relationship.  If you recognize that you have not had this discussion, and you’re in a serious relationship, this is the time to begin having conversations about parenting. 

Remember, it’s never too late to have these important discussions, and ongoing discussions about parenting is essential.

You can work find out more about Bynia Reed through her website:

The resources she provided are as follows:

The Conscious Parent

Parenting the Strong-Willed Child


Nov 8, 2016

Chats with Monika:   How to make your blended family work

Tips to Be Successful as a Blended family

  • Be flexible. Being rigid is not helpful.  Your way is not the only way.  There are two parents.

o   Make decisions together.

o    How do you perceive your role as a parent of the child? You and your partner should have a conversation about this topic.

  • Mistakes will happen.

o   Don’t throw mistakes in your partner’s face.

o   Talk about what is not working, and how you can work to change those things that are not working.

  • Have conversations about what the child will call the new parent. For some people, the word step parent may be harsh. Find language that makes everyone feel included as opposed to excluded.

o   When you don’t say anything, it may bring about uncomfortable feelings. Be open to allowing conversation.

o   Bring the children in and allow them to take part in the conversation.  Allowing children to express feelings and not have penalties for their feelings can be a gift.

o   Model respect by expressing your feelings without being disrespectful. Use this as a teaching moment.

  • Don’t allow the other parent (child’s mother or father) to become “Drama” for your relationship.

o   This is the child’s parent, so be careful when having conversations around the children

o   Show respect toward the biological parent.  Do not make negative statements about their parent. Control yourself and your emotions.

  • The biological mother and father may not get along, and sometimes this can negatively impact your relationship

o   Allow your household to be a peaceful place by not allowing the other parent “to walk around in your house.” 

  • Establish Boundaries
  • Conversations about the other parent should not be every moment. Address concerns as they arise. Don’t let it linger and create conflict or ongoing distress.
  • Conversations about the child’s other parent should be at an appropriate time. For example, this is not a conversation for date night.
Nov 1, 2016

Episode 5:  Let’s Talk About Sex!

Boosting Your Sex Life With Carol-Ann Trotman

Sex is a topic that many couples do not speak about; however, this is a topic that needs to be addressed.  Discussing sex and topics related to sex can help you better enjoy your sex life.  Not talking about sex in your relationship can hinder your relationship in many ways; you are preventing yourself and your partner from having more satisfaction in your sex life.

Many couples share that they do not begin a discussion about sex due to fear of hurting their partner’s feelings; however, even if you do not bring up your concerns, you may still be sending off negative non-verbal messages to your partner. 

How to begin conversations about sex and sexual pleasure.

  • Don’t bring it up while you are having sex. This is not the time to have a conversation about your sex life. Bring it up on a date night or at a relaxed time.
  • Share with your partner things that you would like to try.
  • Make sure you provide sexual activities that you would like to engage in more or less frequently.
    • What sexual positions or activities would you like to do more frequently.
      • Make sure you are open for feedback. Remember, the goal is to make improvements
    • Develop a list, and bring up the conversations to facilitate discussion. Make sure you do not get off track.
    • Play a game that would allow sexual conversations to be more spontaneous.


Sex conversations should be ongoing. Make time to have a conversation regarding sex.

Sex is a topic that you or your partner may experience anxiety talking about; therefore, make the conversation comfortable. Take risks in your relationship, be vulnerable.

Tips To Assist With Sex and Sexual Exploration

Do research on your own to better explore how to enhance your sex life.  You can also do research with each other to facilitate more discussion. 

When having discussions about sex, remember to make it fun not tense.

If you are continuing to experience difficulty, you can always seek counseling services.  In a counseling environment, you can get help with further exploring your sex life.


Carol-Ann Trotman suggested the following book:

Esther Perel; Mating In Captivity.  In this book; she addresses emotional intelligence and understanding your own and your partner’s ideas about sex.

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