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This podcast is for those who are interested in improving their intimate relationship. If you are in a relationship, and believe in keeping the spark alive, this podcast is for you. For those couples who are dating, engaged, newlyweds, married, or in a long term relationship, we will focus on enhancing your intimate connection. Dr. Kia James, will interview specialists, relationship coaches, marriage counselors, and successful couples to bring you tips, advice, and strategies for making your good relationship or marriage better. Of course, these tips can also benefit couples who are experiencing relationship stress. We will cover topics related to successful co-parenting, creating a healthy blended family, dating, sex, love, passion, supporting your partner, and much more. Nurture your relationship and avoid relationship road blocks. Tune in as we discuss relationship tips that will give your relationship that extra boost!
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Dec 27, 2016

Preparing your relationship for the new year

Relationship Boosters Podcast Episode 12

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Developing a Plan of Action and Establishing Relationship Goals

Interview with Dr. Mesha Ellis: Clinical psychologist and certified sex therapists.





Dec 21, 2016

Where should you spend the Holidays

Relationship Boosters Podcast Episode 11

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Dec 13, 2016


Don’t forget about Intimacy during the Holiday season 

This episode begins our 3 part holiday series.  It is so important to make sure that you do not forget about intimacy

  • Create new rituals around intimacy around the holiday

o   Get a new outfit to wear during your next sexual or intimate escapade.

o   Create a list of sexual playdates.

o   Go to your local novelty store and ask questions. 

  • Buy a new toy that you and your partner can use in the New Year or during the holiday season
  • Love Coupons

o   Around the holidays you can gift your partner a coupon to be redeemed at any time.

o   The coupon can be for any sexual or intimate act.

Dec 8, 2016

Nurture Your Relationship

Relationship Boosters Podcast Episode 9

Interview with Jackie Flynn: Jackie is an expert in working with families, children, and couples.

Model healthy relationships for your children

When children are growing up they experience how their parents interact with each other, and this is how they learn to interact with others. This your first opportunity to teach your child, people are for loving and respecting and this is how healthy couples interact

Nurture your relationship

  • If you don’t give your relationship time and attention, your relationship can fall apart.
  • It is dangerous to be in a child centered marriage. You want to be the best parents, but recognize that being great parents does not need to be at the expense of your relationship.
  • The emotional distance and disconnect can leave a loneliness in your partner’s heart.
    • Feeling and fearing loneliness can contribute to people behaving in ways that are against their values.
    • Feeling desperate for emotional release can open the door for other people to enter your relationship, such as having an affair.
      • People begin to feel guilty

Signs that you may not be paying attention to your relationship

  • Look for decline in tolerance level.
    • During conflict, you focus on every negative thing about the person, or bring up every time the person has acted in a negative way.
  • A conflict avoidant relationship.
    • This can open the door to infidelity and other relationship problems.
  • You have begun to lose the passion.
  • You begin to engage in the 4 horseman.
    • Defensiveness, Contempt Criticism, and Stonewalling.
      • When stonewalling, you check out.
        • You don’t upset me.
        • You don’t excite me.

What can I do to make a shift to focus on my relationship?

  • Carve out time each week to be intimate.
  • Schedule time with your husband or wife. Get a babysitter
    • Tell your kids that it’s time to nurture your relationship.
  • Deposit into partner’s emotional bank account.
    • Instead of focusing on the negative, say I am glad we are together right now. I am happy to see you.
  • Go out of your way to show your spouse that he or she is important.

Being a part of a family, with a partner and children, requires balance:

  • Don’t focus on one and forget the other.
  • Focus on yourself as an individual.
  • Make time for the relationship with your partner.
  • Don’t forget to have the time together as a family.
  • Your child or children are important; therefore, there must be time for each child.


If you feel like your marriage is in trouble, do something about it as soon as possible. Don’t wait until you feel like “I don’t know if this marriage is going to work.”

  • Most people wait too long. They seek counseling as one last ditch effort before going to the lawyer to separate.
  • The counselor will work with you to address, “what does the relationship need.”
  • Don’t wait. When you catch the problem early, there is much less to fix
  • The counselor is focused on what does this marriage need.
  • Bringing problems out in the open does not make the problem worst. It allows you to work on the relationship before an explosion.
    • Pretending that it is not there can be like a boil waiting to burst and leave a scar.
  • Therapy can be great for a relationship.   When couples go out of their comfort zone, they can become madly in love with each other again. In counseling, you can work to have a relationship better than it was in the beginning.



In a child centered marriage, you grow distant as a couple, because you are not making time for each other. Your child has attention, but they do not get a good template for what relationships are made of, and they will not get the benefits from experiencing a healthy happy family.

A happy healthy family can’t be replaced by money, attention, or anything else. Give this gift to your child.


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Tune in to Jackie Flynn on The Parenting in The Rain Podcast You can also find out more by visiting Jackie’s Parenting In The Rain Facebook Page.